Bride & Gloom… have you suffered from post-nuptial depression?
The Olympic void is nothing compared with PND — post-nuptial depression. And with the end of the wedding season in sight, here come the honeyblues, says Lucy Tobin.
It is six days until my wedding. I know this because my Wedding Countdown app tells me so. And because my fingers are raw from ribbon-tying decorations, our John Lewis gift list number comes up more often than our phone number and for the past six weeks every evening has been spent on wedmin.
But while my fiancé sighs and moans as yet another evening is filled with a meeting or demand to tie more ribbon (“More? But my fingers are still frozen, claw-like, from the last batch. How can more ribbon exist in the world?”), I love it. Bridezilla? If I had a pound for the number of times that particular accusation had been hurled at me, I’d be able to rent at least one overpriced wedding chair cover. So I’m not surprised to hear of the latest ailment circulating on the London wedding world more frequently than a mushroom vol-au-vent: Post-Nuptial Depression. That post-wedding slump that hits some newlyweds so hard even a five-star honeymoon can’t rouse them.
Public utilities worker Katie Pickin, 28, got engaged to her boyfriend Chris, 33, a north London engineer, two years ago and married this June in a tithe barn — after extensive wedmin. “I planned everything myself,” she explains, “designed and hand-made the date cards and invitations, chose all the flowers, dresses and decorations. Everything matched my colour scheme, even down to the wrapping.”
The big day, she says, was “amazing” but soon afterwards post-wedding blues hit. “We got married on the Saturday, then on Sunday we opened our cards and presents, ate cake, and drank champagne, but I fell into a slump on the Monday,” says Pickin. “It felt horrible, as if I had no goal to work towards. We went shopping that afternoon and I just wandered about with no focus as I wasn’t ‘wedding shopping’ — so had no idea what I was looking for. I felt very down, and really struggled to be motivated to move on. It felt similar to having lost a family member as the wedding had been such an important part of my life and then it was gone.”